DEAR MISS MANNERS: I just hosted a New Year’s party for my close circle of friends. First, let me say that we had a fabulous time, and it was the perfect way to ring in the new year. But as I was cleaning up, it occurred to me that most everything I bought for the party was still here.
The invitation stated that I would provide wine, beer, mixers, garnishes and desserts, and invited guests to bring one appetizer and any other beverage they might prefer. Most brought their own wine, some brought their own desserts, and some brought several things.
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Therefore, there was way too much food left over, and most of what I had provided in the way of wine, beer and desserts remained untouched. I can’t help but think of the unnecessary expense — something I dislike along with excess. So, am I being too picky and unrealistic expecting people to follow what I thought were clear instructions?
GENTLE READER: If you want to assert the host’s privilege of controlling the menu, the way to do so is to provide all the refreshments. It is not by ordering take-out from your guests, as …read more
Source:: The Mercury News – Lifestyle