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DEAR READERS: While I’m away, readers give the advice.
DEAR CAROLYN: On people who seem to shut down around holidays:
Many people suffer from holiday depression. My husband had early memories of his parents screaming at each other. Until we talked this out, he had difficulty celebrating.
Carolyn Hax: My brother doesn’t allow his friends to date me, but …
Carolyn Hax: Mom is very negative — but wants us all together for the holidays
Carolyn Hax: My parents are difficult, often angry and they can be really mean
Carolyn Hax: Should I tell my friend I once dated her new beau?
Carolyn Hax: Kids getting eye-rolly about the strict rules at relative’s house
DEAR CAROLYN: One December when I was in high school, our house burned down, my mother was already hospitalized, my father worked in a different city, and my grandmother, who was burned in the fire, died a few days later.
As an adult I would become very depressed around Thanksgiving and not know why until I talked it over with some friends. I realized I’d internalized all that pain and my body/mind recalled it like clockwork every year. Now I write myself a note in my new annual datebook to make preparations, as I know it’s coming, and I no longer endure the gray holidays like I …read more
Source:: The Mercury News – Lifestyle