DEAR CAROLYN: My husband has always liked our apartment — the bachelor pad he was already living in when we got married — but I’ve never been a fan. The rent was cheap, though, so I agreed to live there for a few years until we saved up a down payment for a house.
It’s now been a decade. We are still living in the apartment. He finds something wrong with every house that we have toured — and there have been dozens. He’ll say the street is too busy (even if it’s a quieter street than the one we live on). Or the house is too small (even if it’s bigger than our current place).
Carolyn Hax: Take the high road with this brat
Carolyn Hax: They tried to steal my baby, now they want to be friends
Carolyn Hax: This destination wedding is testing family bonds
Carolyn Hax: I boil at the mere mention of his horrid girlfriend
Carolyn Hax: I’m just sure she’s going to get shot at school
I don’t think he’s deliberately sabotaging our housing search, but he’s generally resistant to change, and also he’s lived in our current apartment for so long that he’s blind to its numerous faults.
Meanwhile, I’m resentful as hell. I’ve put up with a place I didn’t like for a decade. Why can’t it be his turn to overlook a few faults? Do you have any advice?
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Source:: The Mercury News – Lifestyle