Miss Manners: Will nitpicking their grammar make me intolerable to co-workers?

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Sometimes at work, colleagues will ask me to review an important document they have written. They are seeking my input on the content, not the grammar.

Judith Martin

However, I often find grammatical errors. I’m no expert, but I do have a background in journalism and have been trained to find grammatical mistakes. If the error is glaring, such as accidentally omitting a word, I will point it out.

But if the error is small, or one that few people would even recognize as an mistake, I don’t mention it. After all, I don’t want to be that obnoxious, nitpicking co-worker.

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Nonetheless, I wonder if it would be better to make the corrections to help my colleagues, even though I may come off as intolerable.

GENTLE READER: “Nitpicking” has gotten a bad name. Like the word “literal,” people have grown so accustomed to using it figuratively that they have forgotten the literal meaning, which is to remove the nits — lice eggs — from someone’s hair.

A child with lice should be grateful for a nitpicking parent (and if they are not, their teachers and the other parents surely are).

Similarly, a colleague who requests the services of a copy editor should be grateful when that person identifies potentially embarrassing mistakes, large or small.

Miss Manners recognizes, without accepting, that an …read more

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Carolyn Hax: He’s a smug lawyer, and they hate him

DEAR CAROLYN: I have been divorced 14 years and have two adult children. Recently my children informed me they do not like the man I have been dating for several years and do not want him at family events. Why they do not like him: He is the complete opposite of their father. Also, he is an attorney, so it goes without saying that he is opinionated.

He is willing to listen and does not argue incessantly, but does offer an opinion when one is not asked. I have explained to him that if a person is not seeking his opinion, do not offer one. This is especially a problem with offering parenting opinions to my daughter and son-in-law. It drives them crazy, especially since my boyfriend has no children.

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My daughter finally became infuriated after he again told her how to parent, and they had a huge blowout. She wants nothing to do with him. His reaction was no better and he let me know he does not care for either of my children. This makes me sick to my stomach.

I love this man and we have so much fun together, seldom …read more

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Here’s what Disneyland’s new Tropical Hideaway in Adventureland looks like

The tiki torches are lit and the tables are ready. Now, get ready for some outdoor dining overlooking the Jungle Cruise, as Disneyland’s Tropical Hideaway prepares to open for business.

This new eatery will serve grab-and-go exotic foods such as warm bao buns with spiced vegetable, kaffir lime chicken and bulgogi beef fillings, ramen salad, spring rolls with cream cheese and pineapple and more.

People will sit on a rustic, aged-looking outdoor deck that looks like it just extended over from the Jungle Cruise. After dark, tiki torches will light the area with a flickering glow. The new venue sits in the space between the Enchanted Tiki Room and the Jungle Cruise that once held a Polynesian themed restaurant called the Tahitian Terrace, and later was Aladdin’s Oasis.

After years of performing with the bird mobile chorus of Walt Disney’s Enchanted Tiki Room, Rosita spread her wings and took flight toward a solo career. Guests will now find her on the river’s edge at The Tropical Hideaway Ð the soon-to-open destination for extraordinary worldly eats at Adventureland at Disneyland. (Joshua Sudock/Disneyland Resort)

Located on the shores of Adventureland at Disneyland Park, The Tropical Hideaway will be the destination for extraordinary worldly eats when it opens. Menu items include warm steamed bao buns, chilled ramen salad, Sweet Pineapple Lumpia, Dole Whip and more. Disneyland Park is located in Anaheim, Calif. (Joshua Sudock/Disneyland Resort)

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The Tropical Hideaway under construction in Adventureland at Disneyland in Anaheim, CA, on Monday, Oct 29, 2018. The new restaurant, at the former location of Aladdin’s Oasis, will feature three different varieties of bao: Spiced Vegetable Bao, Kaffir Lime Chicken Bao, and Bulgogi Beef Bao. (Photo by Jeff Gritchen, Orange County Register/SCNG)

Some of the treats that will be for sale at the new Tropical Hideaway …read more

Source:: The Mercury News – Lifestyle


Yvaska: ‘Antiques Roadshow’ returns to NorCal in 2019

Want to have a favorite antique evaluated by TV’s top appraisers?

“Antiques Roadshow” — the PBS show that is part roving treasure hunt, part history lesson — plans to stop Monday, May 13, in Sacramento at the noted Crocker Museum. It’s part of the 2019 summer tour and incredible news for devoted Northern California fans of the program, which has been part of our lives now for well over two decades.

Those who get tickets to attend with their family heirloom or other vintage item in hand will be chosen at random. Enter the drawing online for two free tickets by going to www.pbs.org/roadshowtickets. The deadline to apply is Feb. 11. For more details by phone, call 888-762-3749.

Other cities getting a “Roadshow” visit in 2019 will be Phoenix, Arizona; San Antonio, Texas; Fargo, North Dakota; and Winterthur, Delaware.

Collectible ephemera

The San Francisco Paper Show, the first antiques shows of the new year, will be held Jan. 5-6. Collectors come to this very specialized attraction for not just postcards but also trade cards, sports memorabilia, stereoscopes, brochures, labels and more. Get in on the fun at Golden Gate Park, Hall of Flowers, Ninth Avenue and Lincoln Way, San Francisco. Details: 10 a.m.-6 p.m. Jan. 5, 10 a.m.-5 p.m. Jan. 6. Free admission. 415-531-0553, or www.vintagepaperfair.com.

Sale in Saratoga

The Echo Shop, a high-end resale shop in the Saratoga Village, will hold a storewide Christmas clearance sale from now through Dec. 19. All merchandise is 50 percent off. Proceeds from sales at the shop, owned by St. Andrew’s Episcopal Church, help support community organizations. Details: Open from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. at 14554 Big Basin Way, Saratoga. www.echoshop.org.

A store worth crowing about

My friend Mary took me last month to an antiques emporium she discovered on a trip to the City by the …read more

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