American churches are failing to meet the needs of children with cognitive and conduct disorders, a study by the National Survey of Children’s Health found last year. In fact, children with autism are twice as likely to never attend religious services compared to kids with no chronic health conditions. As researcher Andrew Whitehead concluded, “This population is unseen because they never show up, or when they do, they have a negative experience and never return.”
It may come as a shock to you that churches are unable or unwilling to meet the needs of kids with developmental delays and learning disabilities — especially if you’re a parent of children without any significant differences. But for people like me — a parent of three adopted children and two who have Down syndrome — these revelations barely induce a yawn. This is a situation we’ve been wrestling with and tirelessly trying to improve for years.
Recently, I was at an evangelical church service to talk about my book, Scoot Over and Make Some Room, which explores the intricacies of my family life and the ways in which many of the systems in our society have yet to make room for my kids and others like them. The pastor who was interviewing me prefaced his first question by saying, “parents who have kids with disabilities such as Down syndrome, really wish their children didn’t have that, that they could take it away.”
I cringed inside. I was so shocked to hear this religious leader, standing before a sea of people who looked to him for spiritual guidance, casually degrade my son and daughter with Down syndrome, I didn’t even hear what the actual question was. I gently responded that I love my kids with Down syndrome and affirm that they are fully …read more
Source:: The Week – Lifestyle