Here’s how to tell if you cheat because of love or lust — and why it’s important to know the difference
All relationships will have their ups and downs.
But many people say cheating is the worst thing their partner could do to them.
Some people cheat out of lust, while others have affairs because they fall in love with someone else.
It’s important to know the difference, as lust means you’re outsourcing your sex life, while love means you’re emotionally unfulfilled by your current relationship.
Here’s how to work it out.
“The course of true love never did run smooth,” said Lysander to Hermia in “A Midsummer Night’s Dream”.
The obstacles the couple in Shakespeare’s play faced are unlikely to be as much of an issue today in modern dating. You may not have to worry so much about your father’s opinion on who you should marry, or have to dodge advances from characters like Demetrius.
But the proverb still rings true — very few romantic relationships go by without their problems. And one of the biggest issues a couple can face is the pain of infidelity.
In “A Midsummer Night’s Dream”, Lysander starts to pursue Hermia’s friend Helena due to some ill-advised meddling from the fairy king. But in the real world, people stray from their partners without magical tampering and spells.
Approximately 12% of men and 7% of women admit to having an affair, but this data varies every year. And considering the fact infidelity site Ashley Madison gets thousands of new sign-ups every day, it’s not farfetched to assume cheating is a prevalent part of everyday life.
Outsourcing your sex life
The reasons people cheat differ too. Some people “outsource their sex life,” according to Ashley Madison’s director and CTO Ruben Buell.
“I think at some point we learn that life isn’t exactly the fairy tale we were told when we were little boys and girls. Life is real,” he
Source:: Business Insider