Carolyn Hax: A 30 year tradition ends – I feel rejected


DEAR CAROLYN: Our extended family — siblings and kids — have always gathered at Thanksgiving and Christmas. Last week I got a text from my sister saying she and her family would be going away for the holiday and would no longer host Christmas Eve at their home.

Carolyn Hax

This came out of the blue and is really upsetting me. My brother and I have both been widowed in the last four years and this event was something we looked forward to because everyone attended and it was a lot of fun. (My brother has grown children; I do not.) We feel surprised and unwanted and don’t understand the decision.

Of course it is their right to celebrate as they wish, and I kick myself for expecting a 30-year tradition to continue on. But I can’t figure out how to feel OK about this. I feel rejected, and I don’t know why they would do that.

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