The ‘paradox of choice’ could explain why you’re still single — here’s what it means
Dating apps mean we are given nearly endless choices of who we can date.
While this should make connections easier, it also makes us more picky.
This is because of the “paradox of choice” that makes us believe the grass is always greener on the other side.
By always looking for something better, you might miss the opportunity right in front of your eyes.
If you’re single, don’t worry. Science has shown it’s actually better for you in a number of ways.
But if you’re spending this Valentine’s Day crying over the fact nobody wants to be in a relationship with you, there’s a psychological reason that might help explain why.
It’s called “the paradox of choice,” and it essentially means that while we consider variety as a good thing, at the same time, it makes our decisions more challenging.
For example, you may have met someone on on Tinder, and the first date went really well. You probably want to see them again, but you can’t help noticing their tiny flaws. You know your online profile is sitting there on your phone, and you just can’t shake the feeling there could be someone else on the dating app that would be an even better fit for you.
In his book “The Paradox of Choice,” Barry Schwartz describes this way of thinking as “maximising.”
“Maximizers treat relationships like clothing,” he writes. “I expect to try a lot on before finding the perfect fit. For a maximizer, somewhere out there is the perfect lover, the perfect friends. Even though there is nothing wrong with the current relationship, who knows what’s possible if you keep your eyes open.”
The opposite of maximisers are “satisficers,” who have the ability to know a good thing when they see it, without obsessing over “what ifs.”
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Source:: Business Insider